Working steps 8 through 12


STEP 8+9
⦁ There are major differences with face to face amends that are necessary, and lifetime (lifestyle) amends. Praying for the folks on your list until you have forgiven them for everything is so important. We’ve destroyed our lives by boozing and using people, now it’s time to clean up our side of the street. Follow the proceedure on page 552 in Alcoholics Anonymous
⦁ I do recommend writing letters to each and every person in your notebook. These letters are not to be sent, they are for you. Write out practice amends letters until you mean them. Talk with your sponsor and ask them how they made amends.
STEPS 10+11
⦁ I do recommend that you work on this as much as you can, simply because the disease is a Spiritual disease. When we sit on our thumbs, the disease gets worse. I’ve never wasted any time that I spent working on the program. Guess what all the daily homework is? Think a minute, it is your 10th and 11th step.

STEP 12
⦁ Do the dictionary thing, and read pp. 89-164 BB and Step 12 in the 12×12
⦁ Re-do all of the steps in order with your sponsor. When you are asked to sponsor others, you will be working all the steps with your sponsee.
⦁ Walk the talk, do not give a sponsee homework you have never done
⦁ Live the program each day, do your daily homework, including the added prayers from your journey through the steps

Working Steps 5-7


STEPS 5-11
⦁  We start with a dictionary. Write down the definitions of the fifth through eleventh steps.
⦁ READING
Read pp. 72-88 4th edition BB, Read pp 55-105 12×12. Highlight the lines that resonate with you, key points. Take notes. Write down questions. Look up the definitions to any words you don’t know and write them in the margins of your book. (Hint: This is for future use, and proof that you have read the material.)
⦁  What you will be going through the day of your fifth step…
⦁ Bring your BB, 12×12, and notebooks with your work inside. You and your sponsor will look over the work done so far.
⦁ Do your formal 5th step, and then work steps 6 and 7 at this point.
⦁ For steps 8 and 9, we will look at the list of persons you have harmed, and how and when to make amends to these folks. I do recommend writing letters to everyone on the persons you have harmed list, not for mailing, but as if this was the only way you can make amends. It is good practice.

STEP 5
⦁ Read page 75 BB. We will go through your 5th step…
⦁ Find a place where you can be quiet for an hour….
⦁ Follow directions on page 75 paragraph 3.
⦁ Re-read your step work up to this point.

⦁ Have you left anything out?
⦁ You know the drill at this point, get together, review the wip (work in progress), and continue the daily home work while you work this step. Add the willingness prayers to your daily prayer; continue with the other daily prayer work. Huggage, it’s going to be okay. The next step is a new beginning. 😉

STEP 6-7
⦁ When you are finished, you’ll go through those short paragraphs together, and commence to do steps 6 and 7 together. Your sponsor will ask you if you are ready to have God remove all of these defects of Character?

Formally pray step 7.

Wow….

Now you will be doing the 7th step every day for the rest of your life. Here is why, it is work, hard work, to continually ask God to remove all these defects of character. Why? You now need to live as if God has removed all of your defects of character.

Hugs.

 

Working Step 4


STEP FOUR
⦁ We start with a dictionary. Write down the definitions of the fourth step. Made… A… &etc…
⦁ READING
⦁ Read pp. 63-71 4th edition BB, Read pp. 41-54 12×12. Highlight the lines that resonate with you, key points. Take notes. Write down questions. Look up the definitions to any words you don’t know and write them in the margins of your book. (Hint: This is for future use, and proof that you have read the material. If you have highlighted every line on every page, this is not proof of reading it, just laziness.)
⦁ PRAYER
⦁ Pray daily to your HP for the courage and strength to work this step. Here is the proof that the first three steps actually work in our lives. We use the first three steps to get through the pain of the fourth step. If you are an alcoholic/addict like me, then there is so much pain and chaos that led you to this point. Turning our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understand God, believing that God can restore us to sanity, and realizing that we can’t handle life on life’s terms anymore, helps me to deal with the damage I’ve done.
⦁ Meet with me, and we’ll go through this together to get started.
⦁ If you are having trouble, I can and will help you. You may have to go back year by year, month by month. We didn’t get this way over night, so we will have quite a bit of digging to do.

WRITING:
⦁ LIST I RESENTMENTS
⦁ It’s much easier if we use a ruler and divide these lists into columns.
⦁ We list our resentments: People, places, institutions or principles with whom we were angry. (p. 64 BB)

We ask ourselves why we were angry. (p. 64-65 BB)
⦁ Just fill in the Second Column.
⦁ How does this affect me? Self-Esteem, Security, Ambitions, Personal Relationships, Pocket book, Sexual Relations, Fear
⦁ Just fill in the column for each entry on the list.
⦁ Page 67 BB paraphrased… We have to think of these differently. It’s time to start praying. Add all these names etc… To a Prayer list. We asked God to help us show them the same tolerance, pity, and patience that we would cheerfully grant a sick friend. This is a sick person, how can I be helpful to them, God save me from being angry, Thy will be done. (Separate List) Start praying for them. We ask God to mold our ideals, and help us to live up to them. P 69 BB
⦁ Referring to our list again:
Where were we selfish, dishonest, self-seeking, or frightened?
⦁ Where were we to blame? P 67 BB
⦁ WHERE WAS I TO BLAME?
⦁ What sin was involved? Here I also use the 7 deadlies listed on P. 48 12×12
⦁ Pride, Greed, Lust, Gluttony, Envy, Anger, Sloth
⦁ 7 DEADLY SINS
⦁ Pride, Sloth
⦁ Whom had we hurt? P. 69 BB
⦁  Was I self-pitied or depressed?
⦁ Did we unjustifiably arouse jealousy suspicion, or bitterness? P. 69 BB
⦁ What should we have done instead? P. 69 BB
⦁ Was the relationship selfish or not?
If applicable…
⦁ Was I filled with anger, worry, self-pity or depression? P. 69 BB

LIST II FEARS

⦁ We listed our fears even though we had no resentments involved with them.
⦁ Treat the same as resentments list; add these columns where applicable…
⦁ Has self-reliance failed us?
⦁ Did we set the ball rolling? (Are we at fault?)
⦁ Read page 251 and page 551 BB
⦁ We ask Him to remove our fears and direct our attention to what He would have us be. At once we commenced to outgrow fear. P. 68 BB

LISTS III AND IV SEXUAL INVENTORY, PERSONAL RELATIONS, and PEOPLE WE HAVE HARMED LISTS…
⦁ Repeat the same columns as the resentments list, and take a look at each relationship. Add every name to the prayer list…

What follows is a template I made up to give you an idea of what to look for. This is NOT AVAILABLE TO DOWNLOAD AND PRINT OUT. Just do like hundreds of thousands of alcoholics have done before you, grab your ruler and get to work.

Step template

LIST V FINANCIAL INVENTORY
⦁ Gather all of your bills together, write down what you owe, and to whom. Treat similarly to the resentments list.
⦁ Now, how to pay people back?
⦁ Here’s what I am doing, I pay essential bills every month. (Auto pay does help in certain circumstances.) Essentials are those things which keep life going. Utilities, Rent/Mortgage, Groceries need to get paid. However, we aren’t talking about steak dinners and going out to eat. We’re talking about healthy meals, most likely made at home. It’s not often I eat out. With my creditors, I pay them back a minimal amount each month. It’s a matter of paying things the best we can.
⦁ If you truly can’t handle this, then financial workers are sometimes available through the county or the state.

LIST VI EMPLOYMENT INVENTORY
⦁ Go through the complete employment history, if you have been dishonest, have lost jobs etc… treat like the resentments list, focusing on the harm we have done.

 

Now, you have probably written quite a bit. Call your sponsor, get together, and go through it. Huge hugs!

If you have any questions, please email me at justanotheralcoholic@yahoo.com

 

Working Step 3


STEP THREE
⦁ We start with a dictionary. Write down the definitions of the third step Made… A… Decision… &etc…
READING
⦁ Read pp. 60-64 4th edition BB, Read pp. 34-41 12×12. Highlight the lines that resonate with you, key points. Take notes. Write down questions. Look up the definitions to any words you don’t know and write them in the margins of your book. (Hint: This is for future use, and proof that you have read the material. If you have highlighted every line on every page, this is not proof of reading it, just laziness.)
WRITING
⦁ How well has self-will served you up to this point?
⦁ What does it mean to you to have God as your “New Employer?”
⦁ Do you Trust God?
PRAYER
⦁ Third Step Prayer
⦁ Live as-if God has taken over your will and life.
⦁ Ask God for willingness daily.
⦁ Ask God to teach you how to turn your will & life over
⦁ Ask God to help you to stay clean and sober today.
REVIEW
⦁ Re-read BB pp. xxv-64
⦁ Re-read 12×12 pp. 21-41
⦁ Re-read your step work up to this point.
⦁ Have you left anything out?
⦁ You know the drill at this point, get together with your sponsor, review the wip (work in progress), and continue the daily home work while you work this step. Add the willingness prayers to your daily prayer; continue with the other daily prayer work. Huggage, it’s going to be okay. The next step is a new beginning. 😉

Working Step Two


STEP TWO
⦁ We start with a dictionary. Write down the definitions of the second step. Came. To… &etc…
READING
⦁ Read pp. 45-57 4th edition BB, Read pp. 25-33 12×12. Highlight the lines that resonate with you, key points. Take notes. Write down questions. Look up the definitions to any words you don’t know and write them in the margins of your book. (Hint: This is for future use, and proof that you have read the material. If you have highlighted every line on every page, this is not proof of reading it, just laziness.)
WRITING
⦁ Who or what is God? Write down your definition of God. (p. 46 BB)
⦁ Are you willing to believe in a Power Greater than yourself? (p. 47 BB)
⦁ Read to be doomed… (p. 44 BB) what is your choice?
⦁ Re-read your entire first step writing.
PRAYER
⦁ Pray that your Higher Power restores you to sanity. -> Add to your daily prayers
⦁ Keep doing your daily homework while you work this step. Don’t forget to add the restoration to sanity request to your daily prayers in addition to the daily willingness prayer request. Bet you thought I forgot. Take a deep breath; you are going to be okay. Huggage. You know the drill, get in touch with your sponsor; you’ll go through this work together.