We are snuggled in the kitchen


Hello all, Young Master Duke and I are listening to music in the kitchen. Our kitchen is almost tiny house sized. There is no room to maneuver around, especially in a wheelchair. Yet, Young Master Duke and I are fine.

When this house was built, the kitchen was designed so that everything is less than 3 steps away. The sink is reachable from both the fridge and the stove. 2 adults barely fit standing upright in it.

That said, my beloved is resting. So, to help him rest, Duke and I are enjoying close proximity to the coffee pot, and I can reach down and give him belly rubs while he sits next to me.

Since my husband has misophonia, we don’t often listen to music, Duke and I. However, I love most music. So, it’s a very special treat. I have my phone playing a classical playlist softly in the background, and we are good.

Heck even my headphones are getting a much deserved rest.

Little stolen moments, like this one, are treats for Duke and I. Living with someone who is challenged can be a trial, yet I’m not convicted in this situation. We adapt.

Okay, I listen to quite a bit in the car at full volume when I can.

Take care my friends, please enjoy a little stolen moment of joy. -L

He has been resting a little.


Tonight, a brief update. My beloved crawled into bed while I was out with Young Master Duke tonight. He probably slept for 4 hours. Any rest he can get is a blessing right now.

Duke and I ended up on the patio for a bit, and he thought it was a good idea to tangle himself in the lilac bush out front. Sighs. It’s what it is. I believe a rabbit was involved. While Duke is a hambone, he is not the smartest of dogs.

I’m still working on slowly moving the dungeon out to the garage, and clearing it for a bit. I want to be able to ‘get away’ when the winter winds blow. My beloved and I have been tap dancing on each other’s nerve, and any time I can spend away is better for our serenity.

Yet, my plans for a camping trip are started. I have some medical in South Dakota next month. I’m thinking and making lists. We will see what I need to work on yet. If my husband is healthy enough, I’m possibly going to make a run for the border.

Other than that, it was a quiet day. I probably should grab a shower, and hit the sack. Have a good night. !Hugs all. -L

Not enough coffee


Morning all. The Mister is demanding again this morning. It’s part and parcel of the whole marriage thing. Young Master Duke is on the edge of my bed, wanting attention. Shortly, I’m going to crawl in with him and catch a nappage.

I’m still working on the loom knit thingamie in between helping the hubs. I have no clue what it is, other than a comfort in stress.

This morning, I woke, grabbed his urinal and headed to the necessary myself. I could tell he was doing some more for himself while I slept, which was a good thing.

Last night, getting him in and out of bed, I did an oh sheet and I’m going to be hurting again for awhile. The good news, I start PT next week. The bad news? Sighs. He knows that when I help him, I’m going to be in severe pain for a few hours. We can’t get home health aide people. It’s what it is.

Meanwhile, he was a bit demanding this morning, and I went and sat down for awhile. I’m still here, at the desk. I’ve made sure he has tea, and his urinal. I’ve checked on him, and he has snacks. I even gave him a good morning happy banana (they are still fowl evil things.)

We will be okay. It’s just going to take time.

!Hugs my friends, take care, I love you. -L

15 minutes


Afternoon all, we are okay.

This afternoon when I woke up, I had a little bit before my beloved woke. I ate, and started the coffee.

Once he woke, I helped him as much as I could, but did something different. I set a 15 minute timer, and went and sat down. I did the things I needed to take care of me for that time.

I then checked on him, helped him a little, and set the timer again. It is working. He is getting the help he needs, and I am able to rest a little between helping him.

I think that over the next 24 hours or so, that timer is going to be the most used app on my phone.

We are going to be okay. Hugs my friends. -L

No rest for the wicked


Morning all, it’s almost 4 in the morning here, and while Duke is the only one sleeping, the rest of us really want to be.

My Beloved is in just too much pain to sleep. It’s not fair, he is in so much pain. I’m angry, at the Hospital that convinced him for a same-day surgery option.

Still have to help him get up and to lay down, but he can only lay for a few minutes. I’m at my wits end, and if he doesn’t start sleeping soon, I worry for his sanity.

It’s a waiting game. That’s all we have, is to wait, and to pray. Wish it were happier news this morning, I really do.

I will post as I can over the next few days. Take care, my friends. Take care. -L